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We often talk about growth like it’s this sparkly, beautiful thing.
And yes, the outcome can be that.
But the process? The process can feel like you’re watching your life unravel from the floor of your apartment, next to a half-packed suitcase, wondering if you’ve completely lost it. (That’s where my recent podcast guest, Veronica Kisling, found herself. And let’s just say, I’ve been there too.)
In this week’s With Friends episode of Unjuggle the Struggle, Veronica shares her powerful story of walking away from a life that looked successful on the outside—but was deeply unfulfilling on the inside. From a high-powered corporate career to a soul-searching trip to Europe (complete with “no crying in Paris” moments), her transformation is a living, breathing example of what happens when you choose to break your own vessel before life does it for you.
Most of us say we want more—more purpose, more alignment, more joy, more money, more ease.
But when the opportunity comes to receive it?
We freeze. We doubt.
We retreat into what’s familiar.
There comes a moment where you realize: it’s not just your life that needs to change— It’s who you’re being in it.
Not because you’re doing anything wrong. Not because you’re behind.
But because the version of you that got here… isn’t the same version who’s meant to take you there.
I’ve lived in that space before. The quiet discomfort. The weird in-between.
The part where the outside still kind of works, but your soul knows something’s off.
That tension? It’s a signal.
You're just outgrowing who you were.
If you’re in that space…
If you’re feeling the tug to evolve…but not knowing how to really move forward— This episode is for you.
Here are a few takeaways I want to expand on:
1. Surrender isn’t giving up—it’s getting honest.
Most of us were taught to hold it all together. To push through.
To keep performing like nothing’s changing… even when everything inside us is.
But surrender isn’t weakness. It’s saying: This no longer fits, and I’m willing to stop forcing it.
🪞Reflect: Where are you still gripping tightly to something that isn’t serving you?
2. Receiving is a skill—and it has to be practiced.
It’s easy to talk about abundance. It’s harder to let yourself be seen, supported, and blessed—especially if you’re used to being the one who does everything or the one who always says “no.”
Receiving starts small:
Saying thank you without deflecting.
Letting someone help without guilt.
Not apologizing for wanting more.
And it grows from there.
🪞Reflect: Where in your life are you still resisting help, ease, or opportunity?
3. You can’t build a new life from the old blueprint.
If your goals have changed, your habits have to shift, your beliefs have to expand, and so does your identity.
That doesn’t mean throwing everything away. It means getting clear on what’s actually aligned with the life you say you want— And being willing to release what’s not.
🪞Reflect: What are you willing to let go of to make room for what’s meant for you?
I’m not here to tell you reinvention is easy. And if Veronica & I can offer you any words of encouragement, let them be this:
You’re not crazy for wanting more.
You’re not behind for being in a season of breaking.
And you don’t need to have it all figured out to take your next brave step.
🎧 If this resonates, go listen to the episode.
It’s a powerful conversation about identity, surrender, and what happens when you stop trying to hold everything together… and start becoming who you were always meant to be.
👉 Click here to listen to the episode
And if it hits home for you, send me a message to brittney@brittneytollinchi.com. I’d love to hear what part landed most.
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